Tag: Self-made

Choice Philosophy #3~ You are who you hang with.

Who impacts us the most on a day to day basis? The people we hang out with, of course. It’s the core group of friends in our lives. People need people, and people influence each other heavily. People associate you with who your friends are. Even if you don’t have any part of their lifestyle. For example, if you have strippers for friends, but you are not a stripper, you will attract the wrong kind of attention. If you have friends that drink heavily, do drugs and or parties all the time, but you don’t take apart in their actions, you will attract the wrong person. Your friends can be your best or worst asset especially when trying to find love. Sometimes, the friend groups we get ourselves involved with brings us down, being in the wrong crowd may be a hindrance and in some cases, we begin to conform to their ways.

Now you may not have any friends of the sort which is fine, but even those that appear to be your friends may not be. I had a friend that was not involved in any negative behaviors, I trusted her with my thoughts and feelings. I told her things about my relationship and was looking for her best advice. While she told me how she felt, it was in a more negative connotation. She wasn’t looking out for me and what would make it better. She was envious and single and looking for love herself. I didn’t realized it until we had a falling out. Another scenario is my partner had a friend that she shared everything with; private stuff as well. Her friend started spreading rumors and lies which put me in a bad light. If it wasn’t for our trust in each other it could have tore our relationship apart. The people in our lives have a huge impact on what road we take. They influence us and help guide us on how to deal with situations by the advice they give. Whether it is good advice or bad, you are the judge.

It is a simple rule of the universe: you become who and what you surround yourself with. If your around successful people, you will learn how to be successful and rich in life. If you hang around healthy fit people, you will naturally get into better shape. No, I’m not telling you to drop all your friends because they are not rich and fit. Just start evaluating your friendships and determine whether or not they have a positive or negative influence on you. Are they negative? Do they gossip or put other people down? Are they someone that empowers a bad habit? These people need to be gone from your life, however you can give them the opportunity to change, by telling them the blunt and honest truth and hold them at arms length until their actions prove otherwise, not just their words.

Lastly, Are you the Problem? You may be the person in need of the most change. Like attracts like, so you tend to attract certain types of people more than others. It may mean there might be some work necessary on your part before others will want to hang out with you.

It’s ok to be selective about who you hang around. You are a direct result of the thoughts that you think, the people that you spend time with, and the books that you read. Therefore, if you want to change your life, then you must change your thoughts, change the people that you hang out with, and change the books that you read. It is all about change for the better, so don’t be surprised when you need to make some initial changes in order to attract what you desire in the future. One year from now, will you be the same exact person that you are today? The choice is always yours.

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The Promise p.2

Being out on your own at a young age is never gonna be easy. I wish someone would have told me this, however, even if they did I still would have thought it was better than what I was going through at home. I was working and going to college at the time and every night I had thoughts of dying. I became very numb and emotionless so much so, I would hurt myself to see if I can feel the pain. Of course at first it stung, but eventually it too became numb.

During these times my best friend Tip, now my wife, was dealing with a lot at her home as well. Her parents were both very verbally & physically abusive towards her. Letting out all their aggression, towards each other, onto her and it didn’t help that she was openly gay. We hid our affection towards one another for a very long time until, well it just came out. This broke the facade of their family and in turn they gave up on her. She moved out and, of course she moved in with me. Here we were to broken teens trying to figure out what we were going to do next.

I was always very mature for my age, so of course I took the lead, or at least I thought I was in control. We had a blast living with each other and we had a lot of horrible times. Tip introduced me into a new world to help me cope with my pain. That new world was DRUGS. I mean what was a mate to do when all the she wanted was for me to feel better and she promised me that it would. It was magical times. SEX, DRUGS & LOVE (in that order). You see Tip was only showing me what she knew. Her parents were happier when they were under the influence so this is what she learned and I was accepting to it because it showed me love, which is what i desired. This went on for years, and despite two overdoses, and a couple alcohol poisonings, we didn’t stop. We had money, new outfits every weekend, friends, partying, drugs and drink, all the things that matter for a young adult. It was the life and we were the life.

Until it all came crumbling down. We lost our jobs, we lost our place, and we almost lost each other. We realized in order for us to deal with our problems, we have to DEAL with them. Our love was worth more than our failures & worth more than our mistakes. We vowed in order to be better for each other we had to be better within ourselves. We had clearer visions and we began to restore and renew our minds. We were given a new life and a second chance.

Friedrich Nietzsche* said “All truly great thoughts are conceived by walking.” This is why Reek Of Royalty was created. We have prevailed, learned a lesson and vowed to not allow our past to destroy us. Turning tragedy into triumph. We know we have a bigger purpose here on earth. “*That which does not kill us makes us stronger.*”

The Verticals

Most people believe in life you get the hand you’re dealt and that’s it. You are as smart and hardworking as your going to be and there’s nothing you can do to change it. That’s called a fixed mindset.

What’s the difference between a regular (straight line) person and a vertical person??? Answer: a Successful Mindset. Let me school you:

  1. Verticals don’t fail, they see failure as an opportunity. We ask ourselves “What did I learn from the experience?” When we experience a setback, we don’t dwell on it. We assess and move on to the next thing.
  2. Verticals accept who they are, they have a great relationship with themselves. It is important to us know our strengths and weaknesses. We have even taught ourselves how to “correct ourselves”.
  3. Verticals set high goals and work towards achieving them and don’t stop until they reach them. Having a dream is great, but goals turn the invisible to visible.
  4. Verticals don’t hope for the best, they take control to make things happen. You always have a choice, you can control your mind or you can let it control you.
  5. Verticals will see a problem as a reason to be creative and come up with a solution. When you focus on problems you will have more problems, but when you focus on solutions you have more opportunities.
  6. Verticals are always learning. If you want to go far have a learners mindset. Be open to learning and growth and development, free of bias.

To become a better version of yourself, you first must learn to hear your current mindset, recognize that you have a choice, talk back to it using a successful mindset, then take action.

Read this article a few times and once you begin to fully understand, start making executive decisions. You are the CEO of your own life.

From the words of my favorite philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche “He who has a WHY to live, can bear almost any HOW.”

In The Beginning….

It has been said that only 5% of people will become self-sufficient and achieve true freedom, while 75% of people only dream about it. 🤔 I don’t know about you but, ever since we were little, we were always interested in only working for ourselves. “We” you ask? Yes my partner in business, my partner in life….. my wife. I have known my best friend since middle school, and it wasn’t till much later we became an item, Soul Mates. We faced a lot of scrutiny and despite it all we remained strong. But we will get into that later (My gosh I just met you 😊).

Let’s talk about the phrase “True Freedom”. Well for me True Freedom is to have power over oneself for everything. Now back to the percentages (A) 20% of us will live in a vicious circle, you know them same shit different year 🙄  (B) 75% of us will live in a straight line, these people are consistent and complacent. They work a 9-5, complain and only talk about what they are going to do but they never do it. Lastly we have (C) the 5% which I like to call “the verticals”. Now the verticals are those individuals that are always pushing for more, like entrepreneurs. Every year they have gained another level towards their success to become self-sufficient. They Reek of Royalty.

So here’s the million dollar question…. which one are you CHOOSING to be?

Walk with me as I show you who I am and I hope it will pave your path.