A cluttered mind leads to a chaotic lifestyle. My gosh how true it is. Take a step back and look around. I’ll wait…. While this practice is true for your outside living such as cleanliness of your home or bedroom. We will get into that later. It is most important for your mental health. Ask yourself, Am I mentally ready to love?
When I was younger I was sexually abused. This clouded my judgement on what real love was. Love wasn’t a feeling, it became a need. It was like a drug, I just wanted it no matter how it came. I had no feelings.
As for my partner she encountered family issues. Her surroundings consisted of alcohol and drugs. This type of lifestyle was abusive and disrespectful, not your ideal situation to know how to love.
Holding on to things that happened to you in the past, failed relationships, and or family issues, can harbor your ability to find your equal. In past articles that I have wrote, I speak on looking at how you live your life, an decide to make a change. Most will repeat the cycle and re-date the very same personality they left. Why does this happen? Well it’s because they didn’t set themselves free. Free from the pain, abuse, mentality, destruction.
We found that you must tell yourself and believe you deserve all that life has to offer and you must do what it takes to succeed and receive your wants. We had to renew our mind, all that we were taught and was around, we had to trash it. I encourage all to do this before you get involved with someone, even though we didn’t have the opportunity to do it separately. We were not mentally ready to love and it almost ruined us because we were two broken people trying to fix each other for years. Our minds were cluttered and in turn it made our whole lifestyle chaotic and corrupted. We could have avoided all this had we repaired ourselves first. Finally, we were put in a position where we had to make a decision. Please reference back to past articles to hear the full detail story of us and how we prevail.
So I am telling you all, facing your fears and understanding your wants allows you to overcome any and all past dilemmas. Close all chapters of the past. There is no need to allow a person who is entering your life to know how screwed up your past was. Let it go? The End.
Next article will explain the first step in de-cluttering.