Month: October 2017

Choice Philosophy #4~ Date with no Commitment

Before you can even attempt to start dating you must be strong, confident and know what you want. It’s best not to jump into anything serious too quickly. So many times, I see people get out of one relationship, date the first person they meet, shut out every other potential and look for commitment from that one person.  It’s harder to keep our emotions in check, matter of fact, its simply impossible to put a full stop on the feels if you’re seeing just one person. Keeping more than one person in the mix will keep feelings in check and remind you that you’re out there for you and the people you might meet. 

Dating with no commitment or casual dating, is the “getting to know you” phase. While it doesn’t sound hard, it can be a challenge. When you’re in dating zone, feel free to date more than one potential, actually you should date a few people. I’m not saying this is a forever thing, eventually one of them will be someone that you will commit too. While you are dating consider this; what is it about each person that attracts you? It could be mental, conversational, or you may share the same interest. Pay attention to what they say and their body language. If there is something you notice and you know deep down its something you probably can’t deal with, its okay. Maybe their right for someone else, but not you. I rather you let it go now then deal with it and you can’t let it go later. 

Also, let it be known you are casually dating. You shouldn’t be casually dating someone without their consent. Remember in any relationship open communication is key, no matter how casual. Date your type but also date outside of your norm. You never know what your really open too if you keep repeatedly dating the same type of person. Who knows you may meet someone who is outdoorsy, which was not something you we used to, and you realize you love it. The more you allow yourself to be open and reflect on your choices, the better chance you have of knowing the person who is right for you. Once you realize one of your potential is not for you, don’t be upset, let this be a reminder that you deserve more from a relationship than you’re getting. Also, if they walk away from you, let them. 

There is so much to learn, whether you embrace casual dating or not. Feel grateful for the opportunities you have to meet new people because your actually learning something about yourself while experience some variety in your life.