Who impacts us the most on a day to day basis? The people we hang out with, of course. It’s the core group of friends in our lives. People need people, and people influence each other heavily. People associate you with who your friends are. Even if you don’t have any part of their lifestyle. For example, if you have strippers for friends, but you are not a stripper, you will attract the wrong kind of attention. If you have friends that drink heavily, do drugs and or parties all the time, but you don’t take apart in their actions, you will attract the wrong person. Your friends can be your best or worst asset especially when trying to find love. Sometimes, the friend groups we get ourselves involved with brings us down, being in the wrong crowd may be a hindrance and in some cases, we begin to conform to their ways.
Now you may not have any friends of the sort which is fine, but even those that appear to be your friends may not be. I had a friend that was not involved in any negative behaviors, I trusted her with my thoughts and feelings. I told her things about my relationship and was looking for her best advice. While she told me how she felt, it was in a more negative connotation. She wasn’t looking out for me and what would make it better. She was envious and single and looking for love herself. I didn’t realized it until we had a falling out. Another scenario is my partner had a friend that she shared everything with; private stuff as well. Her friend started spreading rumors and lies which put me in a bad light. If it wasn’t for our trust in each other it could have tore our relationship apart. The people in our lives have a huge impact on what road we take. They influence us and help guide us on how to deal with situations by the advice they give. Whether it is good advice or bad, you are the judge.
It is a simple rule of the universe: you become who and what you surround yourself with. If your around successful people, you will learn how to be successful and rich in life. If you hang around healthy fit people, you will naturally get into better shape. No, I’m not telling you to drop all your friends because they are not rich and fit. Just start evaluating your friendships and determine whether or not they have a positive or negative influence on you. Are they negative? Do they gossip or put other people down? Are they someone that empowers a bad habit? These people need to be gone from your life, however you can give them the opportunity to change, by telling them the blunt and honest truth and hold them at arms length until their actions prove otherwise, not just their words.
Lastly, Are you the Problem? You may be the person in need of the most change. Like attracts like, so you tend to attract certain types of people more than others. It may mean there might be some work necessary on your part before others will want to hang out with you.
It’s ok to be selective about who you hang around. You are a direct result of the thoughts that you think, the people that you spend time with, and the books that you read. Therefore, if you want to change your life, then you must change your thoughts, change the people that you hang out with, and change the books that you read. It is all about change for the better, so don’t be surprised when you need to make some initial changes in order to attract what you desire in the future. One year from now, will you be the same exact person that you are today? The choice is always yours.